Collaborative Divorce Coach

Collaborative Divorce Coaching is a hands-on process where each spouse is supported as they make their way through the collaborative divorce process. What this means in part is that as your Divorce Coach I will support you emotionally as you get your head around the new emotional territory you are entering. I will also coach you to communicate effectively as you navigate the new experience of co-parenting with your spouse. And, I will help you manage your emotions and reactivity as you talk about difficult issues that go into creating a vision for co-parenting and a parenting plan that works for you and your children. All this in an effort to work toward a win-win solution between you and your spouse and toward the best interest of your children.

A collaborative approach is interest based as opposed to positional. The effort is toward keeping the process moving forward with the goal of finding a “win-win” solution, rather than having a winner and a loser. Or, as one client put it several years ago, a “win-win-win” solution, meaning their kids won as well.

It’s a fine balance. You want to create a parenting plan as efficiently as possible, and in a timely fashion, but without rushing through and overlooking important aspects of it. So, not so fast that you don’t have an opportunity to reflect on these important decisions, but not so slow that it drags on.

Having said that, a collaborative approach is client centred as opposed to lawyer or divorce coach centred. You and your co-parent drive the process. As your Divorce Coach I work with you to keep it on track.

Of course, while there are the nuts and bolts of creating parenting plans for your children, the emotional aspect of going through a divorce can be very intense.

Having somebody who is walking with you through the process can be very helpful. You’ll be making some of the biggest decisions of your life in relation to your children, and, unfortunately, at one of the most highly reactive times in your life.

For some clients, there are no 4-way meetings. I meet with them on their own exclusively to help them manage their emotions regarding the grief and loss of separating and navigate the divorce process. In addition, it’s a safe place to talk through the decisions you’re having to make. Having someone who can engage your clear thinking can be invaluable. In this instance, it’s about you managing yourself as effectively as you can as you go through your divorce with me as your Divorce Coach providing a safe place to process it all.