Co-Parenting Counsellor

Co-Parent Counselling is a process that allows each parent to talk through their differences and disagreements as well as create or hone their parenting plans.

Ideally, whether in the divorce coaching process or the co-parent counselling process, an underlying goal is to create a vision for co-parenting. A map going forward to help keep you, as co-parents, tied to the values you hold dear that are in your interests and the best interests of your children.

Vision statement

A vision statement is a declaration of an organization’s objectives, intended to guide its internal decision-making. A vision statement is not limited to business organizations and may also be used by non-profit or governmental entities. (Wikipedia)

Barbara Jo Fidler, a respected psychologist and divorce specialist, states:

“A good co-parenting relationship is like a business partnership, where your business is the welfare of your children.”

For co-parents, the business, the “objective” and “overall goal,” is that of raising their children. A vision for co-parenting helps guide you through the tough times. A beacon of light in the midst of tension or disagreement. A mission statement can help keep co-parents on track. “We pledge to always keep the best interests of the children first, and our wants and needs second.” Or, “We will never put the children in the middle of our disagreements, but rather seek to find areas of agreement.”

Having someone to facilitate the ongoing conversation around co-parenting can be invaluable. John Gottman, marital researcher, states that 69% of disagreements in a relationship never get resolved. So much more so in co-parenting relationships. Realizing that there may often be parenting differences, and that’s normal even for parent who are together, and having a calming force guide the conversation is important.